Ask Uncut: My Daughter Heard Us Having S*x, The Cake Etiquette Crisis & Can I Ask My Parents For The Wedding Money?

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Then we get into your questions:

I MIGHT HAVE TO FIRE MY FRIENDS

I’m stuck in a hard place! I run a small business that is quite successful and I have a couple of girls working with me that I adore and have become very good friends with. As we all know the cost of running a business these days is overwhelming, not just the money side of things but the stress, lack of work/ life balance and feeling like you need to be everything to everyone. Sometimes, because we have all become close I get taken advantage of and lines get blurred between boss and friend at work. I’ve recently started thinking about moving my business to my home as it’s a service based industry. It would give me a much better work life balance and I would be much better off financially without the crazy overhead costs, but it would mean I would need to let the girls go. I’m worried I would be absolutely betraying the girls who work with me, but I know they are amazing and could easily find work in this field elsewhere. Am I being selfish or am I overthinking it too much? Please send advice!

DAUGHTER AND BF HEARD US HAVING SEX

Hi ladies, I am writing for some advice for myself following my own embarrassing dilemma. Hubby and I have been together over 20 years, our kids are now older and aren’t at home as much, so we have more frequent alone time. I have always had a huge hang up on being intimate in ear shot of the kids, particularly if things become vocal. I feel it’s something they don’t need to hear. Last night, our daughter (almost 19) was out for a Birthday dinner followed by drinks and unbeknownst to us returned home from said dinner and drinks with her boyfriend (of a year) while hubby and I were watching a movie. Usually she would poke her head in the lounge room and say hi. This time, she didn’t. Hubby and I went to bed after the movie and let’s just say things got heated. I’m talking sloppy ‘hawk tua spit on that thang’ very vocal orgasms…going at it like hammer and tongs with the door wide open. It was like we were in our 20’s again (high five). My daughter and her boyfriend 100% heard us, it was confirmed with an awkward chat and laugh with her about it this morning. My daughter said her boyfriend was like ‘yes’ and she was ‘almost in tears’. I am absolutely mortified and now have a play by play of everything they would’ve heard on a constant loop in my mind. It’s beyond any embarrassment I’ve ever felt in my entire life. I know we’ve done well for this to be the first time this has happened in almost 19 years and she and her boyfriend are adults but I’m more horrified the boyfriend heard us. How can I get over this and move past it? Hubby thinks it’s hilarious which isn’t helping.

LET ME EAT CAKE!!!

A light hearted one! (With made up names) The other day my friend Cindy and I went to celebrate our other friend (Ellen’s) promotion at her house. Cindy brought flowers and I brought a cake. For reference it was a whole mud cake from a cake shop. When I greeted Ellen I handed her the cake and said “to celebrate!” And man was I looking forward to a piece of that cake. I had chosen a flavour I loved fully expecting to get a piece. Now… an hour goes by, no mention of cutting and sharing the cake.“I can’t wait to get into that cake” I say, hoping to prompt some action … nothing. About another hour later “let’s have some cake before we all have to scoot off!” I say again (subtle I know). Again, nothing. She doesn’t even make any acknowledgement when I bring up the cake. Eventually it’s time for me to leave. And leave I do, hungry and disappointed. Now, is it wrong for me to have expected her to offer to share the cake with us? Obviously I gifted it to her so it’s her cake, but I just thought it was common courtesy to crack out the cake with everyone who was there (it was just me and Cindy) Especially considering it was afternoon tea time. It left me wondering is she saving the cake to repurpose / re gift.

CAN I ASK MY PARENTS FOR THE WEDDING MONEY FOR SOMETHING ELSE?

Hey guys! I’ve been thinking a lot about this and I cannot decide what’s right… please help! So backstory, I’ve been working on my own start-up business on the side and I’m finally at a place now that I think I could take that full time and really go for it. To do that, I’d have to quit my current job and obviously that’s a pretty stressful financial situation if it goes tits up. Now, here’s the predicament. My parents have always said they’ll pay for my wedding. All of it, the bells and whistles, anything I want and they’re so excited to be able to do that for me. I’ve been with my partner for over 7 years (we’ve been engaged for a year) we’ve talked and neither of us is really all that keen for a big extravagant wedding. SO, knowing that my parents have set aside all this money… I’m wondering if I could ask that they invest that in my start up instead? It feels weird because it does just feel like I’m now asking for money, but on the other hand they were going to give it to me for a million flowers and decorations for a one day event? Should I ask them? Or just leave it?

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