EPISODE 017 - When Loving Him Meant Losing Herself

The Sage Sorority · 2025-06-05

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Happy Thursday! Triggered by an eye-opening TikTok, I discuss the often overlooked self-neglect women experience, unpack how societal and cultural conditioning contribute to these behaviours, and explore the detrimental effects of over-functioning in relationships. We’ll also touch on the importance of self-advocacy, understanding attachment wounds, and discerning true love from a mere illusion. We're also on YouTube, link below and make sure to subscribe, xx!

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TIME STAMPS

00:32 Weather Woes and Podcast Inspiration

01:50 The Challenges of Podcasting

02:30 Subscribe and Stay Connected

05:13 TikTok Inspiration and Desperation

08:37 Exploring Desperation in Relationships

16:33 Self-Abandonment and Red Flags

25:40 The Importance of Self-Advocacy

31:08 The Danger of Self-Sacrifice

31:37 Cultural Patterns and Gender Roles

32:21 Divorce Statistics and Gender Dynamics

34:53 Emotional and Domestic Labor Disparities

36:16 Health and Financial Impacts of Marriage

37:45 Men's Healing Journey and Relationship Dynamics

39:57 The Reality of Relationship Expectations

54:18 The Importance of Self-Respect and Discernment

57:07 Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks

The Sage Sorority

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